"In one flash, I realised that the centres of power in this country – the boys schools, the bullgingdon club, the golf clubs, the gentleman’s clubs, they were male only spaces that consciously and legally excluded women.
This was when I realised why women only space is so threatening to men. And threatening is the word – if it wasn’t threatening we wouldn’t have to spend so long explaining why we want it, justifying why we want it, and being forced to give it up because we’re ‘discriminating against men.’ Women only space is threatening because men know that male-only spaces are spaces of power. They’re the spaces where men make the decisions that govern society. Women only spaces are spaces where women are creating their own power.”
Female-only space is vital to feminist organizing and women’s safety.
Yet another reason we trans women need to leave women only spaces, like mitchfest, alone.
We’ve all had access to various men’s only spaces. Some of us may have chosen not to join any. And yes some of us may not have been allowed to because of our behaviour or clothing (or race, but that’s another issue), but we could have acted differently if we really wanted in. I mean come on, how many of us were boy scouts?
Just because we’re now exiled from various men only spaces doesn’t mean we have a right to invade women’s very few spaces. Honestly the vast majority of us could change our clothes, cut our hair, and maybe wear a binder and than we’d be allowed right back in. In many ways our exile is self imposed.
The point is we know what happens in exclusive spaces. We know how powerful they can be. So we know exactly why it’s important for women to have their own spaces.
When we force our way into women’s only spaces we change the group dynamic, we change the energy of the room, and we make the focus about us. We become the elephant in the room that dictates what can and can’t be said. In so doing we strip these places of their potential power for women and turn them into another male centered place.
If you have any level of actual empathy for women, you’ll understand why we’re not welcome. More than that, we should care enough to not even make women have to ask us to leave.
So other trans women if you really want to help women, sometimes the best thing you can do is bow out and leave their spaces alone.
it’s not that i hate trans women AT ALL, it’s that sometimes females need y-chromosome-free spaces to feel/be safe and i resent the intrusion. respect certain boundaries and i’m sure we can all get along <3
how do i get this picture of myself tumblr famous
i want this tattooed on my back
lol, this would make a magnificently stupid tattoo.
1) I’ve always found it a very bizarre assumption that pro-lifers only care about fetuses. The Catholic Church, one of the most notorious abortion spooners, is actually one of the largest charity providers in America.
If we’re basing this on a more political level, republicans, the ones who don’t like abortion, are statistically more likely to donate to charitable organizations. (http://www.ethicsdaily.com/republican-states-give-more-to-charity-than-democratic-states-cms-19923)
2) Most of the children in Foster Care can’t be adopted because the parental rights of their biological parents haven’t been terminated yet. The parental rights need to be terminated in order for the child to be eligible for adoption. Also, most of the kids waiting to be adopted are teenagers, have severe mental or physical disabilities, want to stay in a certain area or there’s like, five siblings. (firsthand testimony from someone I’ve spoken with who tried to adopt a foster child)
3) this is some real next level stupidity. as a black bisexual, I personally laugh in the face of anyone who says anything like this.
you seem to care ooooh sooooo much about POC, but do you care that African American children in NYC are more than 50% likely to be aborted?
or, on a more basic level, what have you done to ease ANY of problems that my people are facing? or are you just offering abortion as the only solution to… homelessness? police brutality? unemployment? workplace discrimination? misrepresentation in media?
you are not pro-choice, you are pro-abortion. you clearly only like to use oppressed peoples who are suffering from REAL ISSUES as props to demonstrate why everyone needs an abortion. what about everyone who needs pre-natal care? diapers? better maternity leave? antibiotics and other medication? home aid? anything other than an abortion?
^what kemo-sahbee said. so well-put.
plus this woman seems to be equating aggressive anti-abortion lobbyists with the thousands of pro-life individuals who help support those in need (either directly or indirectly through donations), from pregnant teenagers to victims of sexual assault, young mothers to the homeless, people with mental and physical disabilities to the unborn, victims of natural disasters to refugees. they may not be loud and obnoxious but they care and they do their best to live out the love and charity preached in the gospel. i know because i’ve grown up around them, i went to school with them, i donate to their causes when i can, so don’t you dare say that all those against anti-abortion aren’t pro-life.
Details - Paolo Sebastian Spring/Summer 2014-15 Haute Couture
That last one makes me want to freaking get married
harry potter + social media [2/?] or in which ron is weirdly ok with his sister and best mate sucking face
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NYC in the 1980s.
”After picking up a camera at the age of 15, Jamel Shabazz has been unknowingly become the first “visual documentarian” of hip hop. For over 30 years he’s captured the world around him. Every frame of that world is a time portal that sparks emotion stemming from the scenes they represent. And if there is ever a glimpse into the foundations of street wear and its surrounding culture, it can be found in the pages of his first book.
“Back In The Days” is real deal documentation as it pertains to the origins of hip hop, not to mention hip hop fashion. No 2oK a day models. No makeup artists. No food trucks. The models in the book don’t need runways because they lived the life of style. Jamel Shabazz was there to capture it all.”
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tumblr friendships are hard to maintain like im sorry i know i havent talked to you in 5 months but you’re still super rad and i still consider us friends im just dumb
#if you’re wondering if this is for you #it’s probably for you